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If you have ever thought, I know what I need to do, but I cannot make myself do it , you are not alone. And more importantly, you are not broken. Motivation does not disappear because you are lazy or undisciplined. It disappears because stress changes how the brain and nervous system function. Motivation Is a Brain State, Not a Personality Trait Motivation is not something you either have or do not have. It is a temporary brain state that depends on nervous system regulation.

Motivation is not just a mindset. It is a neurobiological state. It requires a certain level of safety and regulation to be accessible. When the nervous system is overwhelmed, motivation becomes unreliable, not because you are weak, but because your system is protecting you.

There are days I look at all the things I’ve started—the dreams, the planners, the tabs open in my brain—and I wonder if any of it will lead to something solid. If you’re like me, especially if your brain is wired a little differently, you might’ve been told that starting too many things is a flaw. That branching out is a sign of inconsistency. That you need to "pick one lane" or else you’re being irresponsible. But then I open Ecclesiastes 11, and it feels like God is gently

For a long time, I believed the same story many of us were taught. If I just tried harder. If I stayed consistent. If I had more discipline. Then things would finally change. But over the years, both personally and through walking with other women, it became clear that this story doesn’t hold up. Not in real life. Not in tired bodies. Not in nervous systems shaped by stress, trauma, or neurodivergent wiring. Most people don’t struggle because they don’t want change.